Friday, September 14, 2012

End of the Road

I think I must have been in the first or second year of University before I truly understood what the song actually meant. I loved this song growing up, listening to it and singing along, not getting the worlds right “it’s so natural” instead of “Its un-natural” .

Here I am some years later, and I can truly understand what the song really means. It’s actually really sad and depressing. To think that things have an end. I mean everybody knows that one day we are all going to die. The key being “one day”. As some of us experience death of loved ones, that “one day” becomes real. But you can rationalise it’s inevitable there is no stopping it.

But when the death of a relationship comes, it’s a completely different experience. There is always a ‘what if’ that will stay with you. Like an alternative ending to a movie, it will play itself out in your imagination...over and over again, until one day you ready to just let it go. I have come to an understanding about relationships. They end. And that’s fine. I think it’s because of my childhood that I so yearn for this fairy tale ending. This ever after that will remain eternal and more importantly eternally happy.

But real life is quite different.

I’ve heard too many stories of young couples divorcing. It really makes me sad, but then it occurred to me. What if it was just their end? Nothing is made to last forever. Relationships end. What if it was just their time? There is no happily ever after, there is no forever, and destiny is something that we can never truly understand. So really as sad as it is, divorce is okay and natural to a certain extent.

This thought makes me calmer. Even though its sad....its life.

Think this song is cool.



Anonymous said...

I ended up hating that song because it got SOOOO much play on TV and radio at the time....

I wouldn't say divorce is "okay" - because it's a tragic thing to happen...but it's better than staying in a situation that's not going to improve and will only cause pain for the people involved.

As humans, we like to think we're in control - but the reality is that we're not. All we have is choice - we can choose what to do, and the short and long term results of those choices are in Allah's hands. As long as we're doing our best to make the right choices, we shouldn't let regrets and what-ifs get to us - because everything works out for the best.

We tend to have a very limited perception - we can't see the bigger picture, and often it'll take years for us to figure out that what happened was really for the best, and we appreciate it only THEN.

My bottom line here is that as long as your intentions are right and you're doing what you do within the limits of Allah's boundaries, and to live in a way that pleases Him, you can't go wrong.

Lady T said...

Very True