My mother taught me to always except the message. No matter where it comes from, be it a bible verse, Buddah saying or whatever. There is a lesson in the message that I was meant to learn.
I initially liked the facebook group Pure Matrimony, not because I wanted to find a husband on their site but because my friend sent me a status of theirs and I liked the message. From time to time, they really do have good messages for people.
But for some reason their misogynistic undertones are getting louder and louder. There are some things that you can ignore because you can say its cultural interpretation, but I think I have finally reached my limit.
This morning they put a very nice post about Jummah:
“1. *Men are obligated to participate in Friday Prayer*. Allah (S.W.T.) said in Surat Al-Jumauah, (verse 9), what can be translated as, "O’ you who believe! When the call is proclaimed to Prayer on Friday hasten earnestly to the remembrance of Allah, and leave off business. That is best for you if you but knew."
In addition, prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H.) had warned from not attending Friday Prayer. In an authentic hadith reported by Abu Dawod, Tirmithi, An-Nesaii, and Ibn-Majah, that the prophet (P.B.U.H.) said, "Who ever does not attend three Friday prayers, (without a valid excuse) Allah will set a seal on his heart"
Can everyone just stop and read that again.... *Men are obligated to participate in Friday Prayer*.
So I say:
Please explain to me, how does this specify to Men only? You state *Men are obligated to participate in Friday Prayer* But the Verse starts "O’ you who believe!" And the Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H.) starts the Hadith with "Who ever does not ". So I don't understand how you specify only Men. Clarity would be much appreciated.
Then Someone replies
wot is tryn 2 say is,men are oblige they must atend jumah prayer in the mosques while women are not oblige but they can atend jumah @ mosques if they wan to. Jumah mubarak to all!
So I say:
That is what the interpreter is saying, but there is no evidence in what they are quoting, that women are exempt from or can choose whether they want to go to Jummah.”
This is what seriously annoys me. Look, I don’t go to Jummah, because it’s not something I grew up doing. But I don’t believe that women are exempt for attending or even making Jummah at home.
“O’you who believe!” Does that mean that only men believe?
“Who ever does not” Does that mean only men?
If that is true that every time those phrases are stated you can cut women out of that equation.
Someone emailed me and said that he had a friend that was muslim and she felt that she was being oppressed by her muslim male counterparts.
I replied saying that this woman is from a ‘continental’ country, where the culture is dominated by a patriarchal society. The issues that she faces are no different to that of Christian or Jewish or even non-believing women face. Because, the emphases is not on the religion. Its not Muslim vs. Non-Muslim, its Men vs. Women.
This is a fight that has gone on for centenaries, and you know what it’s probably going to go on for a few more.
But essentially, Islam if practiced properly, and not according to cultural interpretation, gives women an equal position in Society! Idea’s that a woman’s place is in the home, cut off from knowledge, intellectual debate; travelling; or being seen and actually living within society is the biggest load of BULL I’ve ever heard. And I implore anyone who has evidence that proves me otherwise to come forward. I mean real evidence, not verses and hadiths that are taken out of context.
I think I have to do real research about this topic (Jummah and females) because it is one that keeps on rearing its ugly head.
But I’m going to do one final statement. Female oppression is not something that occurs in Islam alone. Across all religions, cultures, social economic status, you will find females that are oppressed. I don’t understand why, the minute people read the word, Muslim or Islam than for some reason its so much worse.
It isn’t. It’s all the same.