When I chat, I often get very nervous. I’m always thinking, okay how is he going to take this? Because I’m very sarcastic and always scared that the boy will not understand in what context I say things. Nothing worse than coming in with a higher grade humour just to find out that mister lower grade takes everything at face value, all that cyber time wasted.
What I don’t understand is the whole asking for picture thing. I get that men are visual so they want to see what they talking to. But why do they want more than one? A guy once BEGGED for more pictures, like four or five hours before we actually met!! Now in my mind, I’m thinking okay I’m going to see him then I will know how he really looks. But guys are like “please send me a picture, please, please, please”. This freaks me out! Why do you want the pic so bad? Can any guy out there please clear this up for me?
I reached a crescendo of irritation with a certain Mr. Durban. Who sent me 9 pictures of his car, a few of his family and one, badly lit picture of himself. Then he asks me what picture am I going to send him? “Do you want a picture of my car?” I asked. “No of you” he typed. I pointed out that he did have a picture of me that was very well lit. He started begging like some Oliver Twist on steroids. So I typed “Okay, fine. You win. I’m going to send you a picture of myself. I’m a bit naked, so don’t judge me.” And then I sent him this:
I have NEVER laughed so much in my life.
He said I was evil, but he had a good sense of humour about it, and we remain chat buddies.
But I am still trying to figure out boy language in cyber-space. All I can think of is that guys ask, trying to get you to send ‘naughty’ pictures of yourself to them so they can spend some ‘happy’ time with themselves, or they taking my picture, and putting my head on naked bodies. (Which actually happened to a friend of mine).
Or they could be going arounds saying this is my girlfriend...which is cool, just tell me about it! I mean who hasn't done that before?